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Signs of being abused

Are you in an abusive relationship?
Know the signs     

Ask yourself these 20 questions and rate your relationship based on the following scale:

Has he:

  • Called you names and/or criticised you
  • Tried to keep you from doing something you wanted to do
  • Prevented you from having money for your own use
  • Ended a discussion with you and made the decision himself
  • Threatened to hit or throw something at you
  • Pushed, grabbed, kicked or shoved you
  • Slapped, pinched or punched you
  • Put down your family and friends
  • Accused you of paying too much attention to someone or something else
  • Put you on an allowance
  • Used the children to threaten you
  • Became upset with you over the way you did household chores or with how you prepared dinner
  • Threatened to commit suicide
  • Made you do something humiliating or degrading
  • Checked up on you, listened to your phone calls, checked your mileage or called you repeatedly at work
  • Drove recklessly when you were in the car
  • Pressured you to have sex in any way you didn’t want or like
  • Refused to help with housework or childcare
  • Threatened you with a knife, gun or other weapon
  • Told you you were a bad parent
  • Stopped you or tried to stop you from going to work or school
  • Forced you to have sex
  • Cheated on you
  • Choked or strangled you
  • Threw, hit or smashed something