How to help

• Talk to her about what you see and assure her that you are concerned. Tell her you believe her and that it is not her fault.
• Encourage her not to confront her partner if she is planning to leave. Her safety must be protected.
• Offer to provide childcare while she seeks help.
• Offer your home as a safe haven to her, her children and pets. If she accepts your offer, do not let her partner in.
• Encourage her to pack a small bag with important items and keep it stored at your home in case she needs it.
• Know that you or she can call the Assaulted Women’s Helpline, your local shelter, or, in an emergency, the police.

If she denies the abuse:

• Assure her she can talk to you any time.
• Don’t become angry or frustrated with her decisions. It is mportant to understand that she may be afraid or not ready to take the next steps.
• Try to understand why she might be having difficulty getting help. She may feel ashamed.
• Offer to go with her if she needs additional information or support.
• If she has children, let her know gently that you are concerned about her and her children’s safety and emotional well-being. She may be more willing to recognize her situation if she recognizes her children may also be in danger.